Then, this afternoon, I got an email from a pregnant friend and it made me realize that being pregnant sucks no matter what the temperature. She was lamenting how one of the worst parts of pregnancy is the ridcuously stupid, inappropriate and sometimes hurtful comments people make.
In her case, at a family party, someone came up to her and said "Congratulations! How much weight have you gained", as if she looked HUGE (she doesn't). The tactless person then proceeded to say "Well you don't look swollen and puffy at all". Bahh!
Seriously? Do people stop thinking when talking to pregnant women? When the poor woman is already feeling like a house and incredibly hormonal, do you really need to say things to make her feel worse?
Some of the more memoral comments I recieved include:
"What do you mean you aren't going to find out baby's gender? How am I supposed to buy you a gift"
"Wow, you look ready to pop!" (I was only 7 months along)
"You look like that woman from Jon and Kate plus Eight" (I look like I'm carrying 8 babies? Awesome)
"Wow, your boobs are huge!"
"Don't put your arms over your head. It'll cause a miscarriage"
"I don't think you can do it. You'll cave at that first contraction and get an epidural" (34 hour labor, 10lb 4oz baby, no epidural. TAKE THAT, fucker)
"Can you still fit in your Mustang?"
I know most people don't mean harm and I worry that maybe once, before I ever thought about pregnancy, unwittingly said something stupid. Now that I've been there I think all pregnant women should be able to smack one stupid person a day without reprocussions. Maybe I'll make that a rule when I'm queen of the world. When Queen, I'll also provide free weekly massages for women in their 3rd trimester. Seriously lifesaving.
I do have to give props to my friend Brian who said the nicest thing ever when I was pregnant. At 38 weeks we met him and his wife for dinner. I hadn't seen them since the pregnancy was first announced. Upon greeting me he said, with pure sincerity, "Wow, you don't look big at all!"
I coulda kissed him!
What stupid things have you heard when pregnant? Or, fess up, what did you say to a pregnant woman that you immediately regretted?
Eight babies in there? Really?