This week I turned in Max's "two week notice" at his day care. He's been there for almost a year and in that year he's been sick approximately 4839204830 times. Tests have been run to check for immune deficinies but he's totally fine. He's just more susecptible to catching a bug than your average toddler.
About a month ago, I got another "Come get your sick kid right now" call while I was at work. He hadn't been over his last fever but a week. I burst into tears as soon as I hung up the phone. I hated seeing my poor guy suffer. I hated that he flipped out instantly upon walking into the doctors office. I hated watching finger prick after blood draw after antibiotic shot. The poor child was a human pin cushion. I also hated that I was constantly leaving work or calling in to take care of him. My co-workers (all parents as well) are sympatheic but people can only cover my butt for so long.
I made an instant decision. I was pulling him out of that day care. I didn't know what the next step would be. Quit working and stay at home? Smaller day care? Find a Babysitter? Some other option? We needed a change, and soon.
It wasn't just the frequent illness. There were other reasons I wanted him out of that facility. Nothing major and nothing I want to air on the internet, but I knew a better option was out there. Finding something new was an idea Brett and I have been kicking around for awhile but now it was time to take action.
We reseachered other facilities. I picked the brains of friends who were stay at home moms. (For those who answered me, thank you so much for your honest responses.) We interviewed babysitters. We took a close look at our finances. (And by me I mean Brett. I'm numbers incompetent).
After a few tears, a lot of prayers and several more gray hairs, we offered the job to a babysitter and she starts in just over a week.
I'm still nervous about this decision. I'm weirded out that someone will be in my house while I am not there. What if she sees our dvd collection or DVR que, sees we have terrible taste and runs without notice? I no longer have some of the flexibility I did with day care. Running late or changing my schedule isn't as easy. What will I do to make sure Max gets socilization with other kids?
However, outside of less exposure to germs, there are other benefits. Max naps longer and more frequently at home. He can sleep later too, since most mornings we wake him up to get ready. The additional sleep alone will help him stay healthy. For me, I will now have 50-60 minutes (round trip) of kid free commuting that won't involve a screaming toddler or Bob the Builder DVD's blaring behind me. Also, since I won't have to get him up and ready for the day, I get an extra 30 minutes of sleep!
So it's time for Max's next chapter. Who knows how it will go? It could be the best thing to happen to him. I could be frantically scrambling to find help in 2 weeks. I could get fired, having someone else make the stay-at-home-mom decision for me. Whatever happens I just want to end up in what is the best situation for my son.
Wish me luck because I suck at change!